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Hospice will tell you that very often


Hospice has years of experience and see the passing of one happen quickly after telling them it is OK.

It is more than just saying it is OK to pass, you need to tell them you will be okay and not worry about you.

The family truly believes my mom waited for me, her baby boy, to get there when it was "any minute now" for days. My sister is a doctor and the other sister a nurse who were by her side taking vitals. My dad was there with another sister and a grand daughter for round the clock care.

I got there around 1 pm with my wife. I come from a large family, and Mom had a large family there visiting including her kids with spouses, grand kids with spouses, and great grand kids. At times, there were 15 people in the room that day.

Hospice came by, and pulled a few siblings to the side. She advise us when it got down to a few siblings that we all needed to tell Mom it was okay to go because we would be fine. We then needed to leave room, and have dad spend 15 minutes with her and say his good byes. Hospice advise us after dad, she would most likely pass very quickly.

We talk to dad, and he was all in because he understood being a true Catholic like Mom.

We all waited. We got the text dad was done. We all rushed in, and my sister doctor took some vitals. She said Mom was going, and you could visually tell.

My dad said we all need to hold hands and say the "Lord's prayer". We did that and she passed within a minute of completion.

Death can be a beautiful like I was bless to experience with my mom.

Yes, say it is ok after they know you are ok. It cannot hurt.

[Post edited by VaTechie at 05/13/2019 09:26AM]

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Posted: 05/13/2019 at 09:23AM


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  Do you believe it has any effect to tell a loved one that it's OK to die? -- Gator Hokie 05/13/2019 06:43AM
  Yes. My wife was the only one with enough guts to say that to my father. ** -- thankbud 05/13/2019 1:55PM
  Soften how you frame it. -- MilwaukeeHokie 05/13/2019 12:01PM
  Yes, I think it is important -- TD77 05/13/2019 11:28AM
  Yes, sometimes it's too painful to live. Grandmother told my dad good bye -- Josey Wales 05/13/2019 10:48AM
  Pretty sure they can control it to some extent. My father died 1 day after -- NokieHokie 05/13/2019 10:03AM
  Yes. -- Will Stewart  05/13/2019 09:55AM
  Yes, I do -- Nova Hokie 95 05/13/2019 09:39AM
  My neighbor passed two weeks ago... -- One4VT 05/13/2019 09:59AM
  It's not an easy thing to do. My wife suffered a massive stroke October -- 75Hokie 05/13/2019 09:32AM
  God bless! I’ve yet to experience the immediate family loss -- hokiepro 05/13/2019 10:03AM
  Sorry for your loss. ** -- swordsman1 05/13/2019 09:59AM
  Ditto this. So very sorry, 75. -- MP4VT2004 05/13/2019 6:09PM
  Thank you all ** -- 75Hokie 05/13/2019 11:15AM
  Hospice will tell you that very often -- VaTechie 05/13/2019 09:23AM
  Absolutely. I told my dad that -- Nortazhokie 05/13/2019 09:16AM
  Ive seen some hospice related commentary that talks about the subject -- One4VT 05/13/2019 09:13AM
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  Beneficial and therapeutic though ** -- hokiepro 05/13/2019 10:12AM
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  Yes it is ** -- BTHokie 05/13/2019 10:07AM
  Absolutely -- Burruss Writer 05/13/2019 08:47AM
  In my experience yes. ** -- mancunian 05/13/2019 08:26AM
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