you find something better is worse IMO because that is done by adults.

If you had't gotten your panties all wadded up over my inadvertent use of word "damn" as a perhaps poorly placed modifier, you'd know that I ACTUALLY was saying that any "blame" for not honoring commitments goes to parenting and not a child. That is why i SAID that i never lose sleep one way or the other..and i don't!

Whatever.